{"id":122570,"date":"2021-03-06T16:15:06","date_gmt":"2021-03-06T21:15:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.sleepyeyeonline.com\/goodnews\/?p=122570"},"modified":"2021-03-06T16:15:06","modified_gmt":"2021-03-06T21:15:06","slug":"weeds-by-randy-krzmarzick-our-dark-night-of-the-soul","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.sleepyeyeonline.com\/goodnews\/weeds-by-randy-krzmarzick-our-dark-night-of-the-soul\/","title":{"rendered":"Weeds by Randy Krzmarzick: Our dark night of the soul"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Daughter Abby spent summer 2013 in Toledo, Spain.\u00a0 She was part of a University of Minnesota program studying Spanish culture and language, cementing a relationship with both for Abby.\u00a0 We took the family to visit her.\u00a0 It was good timing before our kids were too far down their own life\u2019s paths.<\/p>\n<p>I carried my Ultimate Guide to Travel in Spain wherever we went as we touristed around.\u00a0 The family teased me for that.\u00a0 It\u2019s there in every picture.\u00a0 Hey, I like knowing stuff.<\/p>\n<p>One day, I was sipping Sangria at a sidewalk caf\u00e9, paging through my book.\u00a0 That\u2019s when I saw that St. John of the Cross was imprisoned in Toledo when he wrote the Dark Night of the Soul.\u00a0 To a Catholic, that\u2019s like a baseball fan finding out they are at a ballpark where Babe Ruth played.<\/p>\n<p>St. John of the Cross, Dark Night of the Soul, right there in the city I was!\u00a0 A young priest happened to be walking by.\u00a0 I took the chance he knew some English.\u00a0 I fear I nearly accosted him to ask where that had taken place.\u00a0 He was understanding of my fervor and pointed on a map to the place a small plaque marked the spot John was held captive.<\/p>\n<p>John was born in a nearby village in 1542.\u00a0 When he was three his father died, and the family fell into deep poverty.\u00a0 Despite deprivations, he grew to be a devout young man. He came to study at a Carmelite Monastery and became a novitiate to that Order.<\/p>\n<p>This was a turbulent time in Church history, and Spain was the epicenter of struggles within the faith.\u00a0 John became acquainted with Teresa of nearby Avila. Teresa was a Carmelite sister who had undertaken a great reform in that group, attempting to move it to deeper holiness.\u00a0 John was inspired to the same.<\/p>\n<p>By 1577 tensions led to a split among the Carmelites, and the factions became violent.\u00a0 John was kidnapped, dragged to Toledo, and thrown into a windowless cell above the Tajo River.\u00a0 There he was for months, tormented by his captors to give up his crusade.<\/p>\n<p>In that dim, cold place that John came to face his inner self.\u00a0 Stripped of everything, he was forced to confront the deepest, darkest parts of his mind and soul.\u00a0 It was here he crafted his epic poem, \u201cThe Dark Night.\u201d\u00a0 From that loneliest and lowest point, John was drawn to God, the true light.<\/p>\n<p>John, one of Spain\u2019s greatest poets, ends the Dark Night joyfully as he finds God, his beloved:<\/p>\n<p>\u201cOh, night that guided me!<br \/>\nOh, night more lovely than the dawn!<br \/>\nOh, night that has united the lover with the beloved!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>We were staying in the old part of Toledo, which looks much like the medieval city of John\u2019s time. \u00a0I could retrace John\u2019s steps he trod at night after his escape.\u00a0 It turned my vacation into a small pilgrimage.<\/p>\n<p>The Dark Night of the Soul is an important work in theology.\u00a0 John\u2019s journey to the depths of his being has counseled believers for centuries.\u00a0 Many of the saints had similar experiences when they came to find the light, when they came to God.<\/p>\n<p>The notion of a dark night spread to the larger culture. \u00a0You don\u2019t have to be religious to have an existential crisis. \u00a0Minnesota writer <a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/F._Scott_Fitzgerald\">F. Scott Fitzgerald<\/a> penned this line, &#8220;In a real dark night of the soul it is always three o&#8217;clock in the morning.\u201d\u00a0 As someone who finds myself awake in the dark when I\u2019m dealing with stresses, I can relate to that.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ve been drawn to John of the Cross since I learned his story. \u00a0When I\u2019ve hit my own bottoms, my own metaphorical nights, I\u2019ve thought of John in that prison, tortured as much by his own mind as the guards.\u00a0 I wish I could say that each of my bottoms ended in joy and light.\u00a0 Sometimes it took a while to just crawl out of the hole I was in, only to find it was cloudy.<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Scott Peck began \u201cThe Road Less Traveled\u201d with this: \u201cLife is difficult.\u201d One might add, life is short. Life is a struggle.\u00a0 Sometimes it just sucks.\u00a0 We will all have troubles; we will all have despairs.\u00a0 None of us purposely seeks those out, but they will find us.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Something about the dark night speaks to the human condition.\u00a0 All of us will know pain.\u00a0 It is part of occupying these earthly vessels we take at conception and abandon at death.\u00a0 It would be easier if there weren\u2019t so many types of pain.\u00a0 Physical pain is obvious.\u00a0 But emotional pain can be as searing, as intense. \u00a0Spiritual pain comes when we struggle with our purpose and the meaning of this all.<\/p>\n<p>I have known people who suffer from chronic depression.\u00a0 For them, the dark night can be never-ending.\u00a0 The sun doesn\u2019t come up.\u00a0 God doesn\u2019t make himself known.\u00a0 That can take years to overcome, if ever.\u00a0 Then, you have to be lucky enough to have help available through therapy or medicine.\u00a0 Friends and family can be an aid.\u00a0 Having those are not to be taken for granted.<\/p>\n<p>Even if we don\u2019t have the diagnosable condition of depression, we will have depressing episodes.\u00a0 In the worst of those, we are alone.\u00a0 We might be surrounded by people, but at our lowest moments we feel as alone as John in his windowless cell.\u00a0 Terrible thoughts can creep in our heads.\u00a0 There is danger there.\u00a0 When you are with someone who is in one of those episodes, you pray you find the right words to help.\u00a0 Or at least not make it worse.<\/p>\n<p>I remember conversations when I was young with friends who found themselves going through a hard time.\u00a0 The hot years of teenage and young adulthood are especially ripe with emotions anyway.\u00a0 Lower lows and higher highs mark that time.<\/p>\n<p>Regardless of the age, we should look around and see if someone near us is in their dark night.\u00a0 Unfortunately, there are constant messages from the world to suck it up.\u00a0 Buck up, fight through it, be tough.\u00a0 There is nothing wrong with encouraging resiliency with people close to us.\u00a0 But then, be there with an open hand and a soft word.<\/p>\n<p>Right now, as this pandemic fades slowly away, I fear there will be more than the usual opportunities to help someone who is in a sad and lonely place.\u00a0 The isolation, the stress of the disease, and the increased number of those who have died have doubtless had their impact.\u00a0 There will be works of kindness and understanding we are called to as we come out of this together.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Daughter Abby spent summer 2013 in Toledo, Spain.\u00a0 She was part of a University of Minnesota program studying Spanish culture and language, cementing a relationship with both for Abby.\u00a0 We took the family to visit her.\u00a0 It was good timing before our kids were too far down their own life\u2019s paths. 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